Sunday, December 7, 2008

Birthdays and Parties

When I was younger, I always celebrated my birthday with kind of a Christmas theme--we would make Christmas ornaments, do other kinds of crafts, or make Christmas cookies. When I got older, I chose to celebrate my birthday at the mall with friends.. and so on from there.

My mom threw me a surprise birthday party when I turned 16--sweet sixteen and never been kissed. I was seriously surprised because I thought the party was for my dad who was turning 50 also that year. I found out who were my real friends (i.e. none of my cheer friends showed up), and boys actually came.. which I thought was really cool. I had a lot of fun, but I decided from then on I didn't want big "parties" for my birthday. Instead of noticing all of the people who came, I took note of the people who did not show up. I felt disappointed that more people weren't there.

Once again, when I turned 18, my mom decided to throw me a big 18th birthday party. Friends came and went.. including my old boyfriend who gave me a freaking "Survivor board game" for my birthday.... and I'd never even watched the show. I did get a Mustang convertible, which was freaking awesome, but I couldn't help but feel like I didn't have enough friends to warrant a big party.

So in college, I always tried to take my birthday celebrations easy. I was offended when my freshman dorm roommate didn't stay home for the weekend to go out to dinner with us, but I tried to be relaxed about it. Most of my birthday "parties" in college usually included dinner or dessert with just my roommates. I never asked for or expected presents, but it was nice when people called me, texted me, sent me a card, or emailed me an e-card. So, I never have expected anything big for my birthday.

So.. to wrap this all up.. My birthday is tomorrow. Graham keeps saying how he feels bad because he's not making a big deal for my birthday, and how we only had a few people come over to celebrate. The thing is.. I really don't have that many friends, so why try to throw a big party and make a big deal out of nothing?

Anyways, we had a few of our married friends come over last night for pizza and cake, and I had a lot of fun. Who needs a big group of people anyways?

P.S. This is not a "woe is me" post. It's just been something I've been thinking about lately.. Also, my blog was starting to sound wayyyy too positive and too typical Mormon newlywed for my taste. :)

9 comments:

Andrea said...

I sometims wish I could have had Micaela a month earlier or a month later. We are having a party but requested no presents as not to burden anybody around the holidays. Once she gets older we won't be able to do this without making her feel bad but for now it's okay I guess. Happy Birthday Sherri.

Shannon said...

I had a big sweet 16 party too and not a single one of my "real" friends I hung out with every day at school came. I was really surprised at the people who showed. Anyway, I come from a big party family and we like to make a big deal of birthdays and such, so the first few years after I was married I was kind of disappointed by my birthdays, but then I decided to stop expecting anything from them. I still have fun and don't come away feeling let down. I have to put in a disclaimer that Ian threw me a really fun little party with just a few other families for my 25th and it was great. I hope that this year you have a great day! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

The Boob Nazi said...

I can't believe people beat me to commenting. Oh well, I was actually having a life haha. I don't like big birthdays either because people never show up when you expect them to. Lameeee

Katie said...

Happy Birthday!

Jillene said...

Happy Birthday!! I am here from Julie's blog. Since you are her sister and I adore her--that must mean that you are pretty alright too!! I hope that you have a GREAT day!!

Jacob said...

Parabens para voce.

Alexis said...

Happy Birthday!

And I say close friends and family beat out large groups of people you don't know that well any day.

Tyler said...

I'm not on big celebrations for anything, birthdays, holidays, etc... I'd rather play with just a few people. Yesterday we went over to some friends' house after the Christmas devotional and there were maybe 10 people there, and they are people we see everyday, but even still it was the most fun I'd had in a long time. Smaller is the better way to go for sure. Feliz dia!

Lemme said...

i read julie's blog and she told us to come over and comment on your blog and wish you a happy birthday...so...HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! i hope it's wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!

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