Friday, February 5, 2010

Not a joiner

I've had many titles in my life, including:
1) Cheerleader
2) Slut (see #1)
3) Nerd
4) Man stealer
5) Jokester
6) Best backspot (see #1)

Among many others...

But never the title of "joiner". What do I mean by this?

My mom always complained when my sister and I were older that we were not "joiners". We didn't try to hang out with other people all the time. We didn't go to parties. We didn't join in any reindeer games..

I am perfectly content being by myself, mostly.. In Portland, I became perfectly comfortable with seeing movies by myself. I would go to bars with grad school friends and be the only non-drinker there and feel ok about it. I don't feel the need to constantly talk to people and be the center of attention in groups. I am ok with listening to other people talk and say something when I have something important to say.

Even when I was young I was like that. It's not that I was shy. I just didn't enjoy other people's company all the time. Sometimes in elementary school when I'd get invited to sleep over at a semi-friend's house, I'd pretend to ask my mom and tell the semi-friend my mom said no. I never had a large circle of friends.. just a few close ones.

If I had been a "joiner", my life definitely would have been different. First of all, I would've been a drinker and your stereotypical ho-bag cheerleader. I would not have attended BYU, and who knows if I would have graduated college. Marriage? Maybe later, after I popped out a kid or two.

So, mom... I think my life turned out alright huh?

And no, I'll never be a joiner.

3 comments:

The Boob Nazi said...

You don't feel the need to be the center of attention anymore?!?!?!?!? I'm sorry, I don't understand what you mean.
I've never heard mom complain about our not being joiners. Whatever.

The Original TomKat said...

btw...I left a nosy Katie comment a few posts down- thanks for sharing sista'. Now, go read my comment and my other blog www.theimportanceofbeinghopeful.blogspot.com.

Sue said...

I too do not remember ever asking about being joiners -- or worried or anything. I MAY have asked why you didn't go to parties, but that's all.

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